Once you know these three strategies, fear melts away. Let me illustrate the three secrets with a quick story. Then, I'll give you them to you.

I spent time in the Midwest where an old livestock farmer said to me, "Lori, I've learned my greatest life lesson from Hereford cows."

I thought that was a bit unusual. After all, I've spoken to many great people who have shared many incredible life lessons. What could we learn from cows?

Well, I was shocked and grateful.

On cattle ranches, the freezing rain, bitter winds and extreme temperatures of winter storms can wipe out entire herds. Flying ice can even cut into flesh.

Facing this dangerous enemy, most cattle turn their backs and slowly drift downwind until they find another obstacle which stops them. Be it a river, fence or something, they pile up against the obstacle and die in large numbers.

But Herefords intuitively stand shoulder-to-shoulder facing the icy storms with their heads down against the bitter blasts.

The farmer told me, “Well, Lori, you almost always find the Herefords alive and well. It is the greatest lesson from the open range. Just face life’s storms.”

When a person stands up to a challenge or fear that challenge or fear tends to fold and give way. People with courageous persistence win.

Eleanor Roosevelt said, “You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.”

Do not attempt to ignore what you fear and go drifting with the wind. Every person must decide over and over whether to deal with fearful situations or to run away.

Most fears are unfounded and empty. A successful businessman in his 60’s calculated that only about 8 percent of what he feared had happened. He looked back on his life saying that 92 percent of what he feared never came to be.

Of the 8 percent of fears that did occur, he said, “Lori, I just stood up to them with persistence. It was my persistence that overcame them. All fears are controllable.”